We want what we want when we want it! Often this
does not happen. So how do you go round this
problem of not getting what you want? Some people
throw tantrums, some others sit silently and brood,
but I prefer to just wait and see that it comes to me
when it is ready for me to have it! If another person
is involved in what I want, in what you want, in what
each one of us wants, then the problem becomes
complicated. When one uses the tantrum method
or the brooding one, the problem gets solved easily.
It's black or white. You get it or not! But when you use
'patience' to see how things develop, and what the other
person is going to do, the problem gets resolved because
the patient person looks for other solutions, looking outside
of the square, so to speak. For the patient one has had
time to realize that the initial hope to do what you want
when you want it is not going to happen. It's better to look
elsewhere! So do you throw the baby out with the bathwater?
Do you stop friendship or companionship or love just because
you don't get what you want? Again the answer is not all that
complicated for the 'patient' one. Just look outside of the square,
keep everything in place as it is, don't rock the boat and let
the other person have the freedom to pursue their own likes.
As a result, you can do the same and follow your heart
wherever it takes you! Each person follows their own journey
in life, and when there is no formal commitment, then freedom
of choice is possible and doable. Journey along your own path
and when this crosses with those of your friends, enjoy the company,
the love and friendship. But also be happy when this is not the case,
enjoy your own company, do your own activities, choose whatever
pleases you! Identifying what we really want is hard enough, then when
you are clear about this, denying our true wishes is counterproductive.
It's better to admit and accept the truth, no matter how harsh it may seem.
For things are what they are and often we cannot change what is!
Better to keep things 'light and breezy' if we want to be happy!
